Hello and Welcome!
My name is Roxanne E. Smith. I am a Life Coach for highly compassionate, intuitive souls in search of self-actualization and freedom from self-doubt. I am an INFJ (Introvert, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judicial) and many of my clients who were drawn to my work have turned out to be NFs (iNtuitive Feelers) or NTs (iNtuitive Thinkers). And so it is my privilege to provide a blog that brings extra support to this special community as well as to highly sensitive people, creative artists and visionaries, and all compassionate, introspective souls and seekers.
At the age of 21 I acquired a Bachelor’s Degree in Child and Family Services from Bowling Green State University in Ohio (1983) where I had internships as a peer counselor and as a child advocate for children from emotionally abusive homes. It was my dream to become a psychotherapist but in spite of my great academic and professional success I had a big and deep question:
How could I possibly help others heal in a deep way unless I figured myself out first?!
So, I sought out a counselor at the age of 23 who had her PhD in Clinical Psychology and she turned out to be a great mentor in my life–she had me take the Keirsey and Bates Temperament Type Test which indicated that I was an INFJ. She was an INFJ too, lucky for me, and she not only encouraged me to follow my dream to help others but she told me I was a gifted writer and that I had an amazing ability to express my true self and heal my self in my poetry. “Keep writing in this special way”, she said, “and you can be your own psychologist!”
She was right! I had been writing poetry in a journal since I was 14 and have been continuing to write ever since. I was fortunate to have a loving, supportive husband (an INTJ) who supported my writing and my decision to focus my energy on creating a loving home for our 2 children and for all of us and making everyone’s self-esteem development my first priority. At each step of their development I saw the world through my children’s eyes and healed my own wounded soul as I wrote out my painful truth.
During this time, as my children grew, my writing, study, and healing process helped me to heal and overcome perfectionism, co-dependence, various compulsions and anxieties. I was also able to heal from chronic fatigue syndrome, candidiasis, multiple food allergies (now I am only sensitive to gluten), ovarian cysts, adrenal fatigue, and low thyroid function. I am happy to say I am now healthy, full of energy, and almost symptom-free from all of these conditions and stress-related illnesses. I owe much to the alternative therapies of NAET, holistic chiropractic, some acupuncture, compounding pharmacies, Neuro-Emotional Technique (NET), and the kind, intuitive souls at my local health food stores.
In 2003, at the age of 42, I started writing “morning pages” (following Julia Cameron’s book–The Artist’s Way) to unblock my creativity even further and through this “deep inner grief work” I found my voice as a writer, as a singer/songwriter, and mostly as a person! This 3-pages-a-day of free writing freed up a part of me that had been hiding in shame, and upon expressing it, releasing it, and healing it came a connection to a wise and confident part of myself–I now am thrilled to say I feel a “wholeness” and I have regained the vitality of my true self! I have found an inner peace and a new energy and ability to shine my inner light to help others!
Along the way on this journey of self-growth I studied the works of Alice Miller, author of the Drama of the Gifted Child, and John Gray’s theories of working through emotional blocks from our past. Other important influences in my healing journey were Louise Hay who wrote You Can Heal Your Life and Carl Rogers who wrote On Becoming A Person. Then more recently, upon discovering more about my intuitive gifts, I was drawn to books about spirituality by Sanaya Roman, and Sylvia Browne. There are more too numerous to mention but it is to all of these highly intuitive pioneers in psychology, self-growth and spirituality that I owe my success–it is by their example and bravery of spirit that they showed me the way to my higher self.
My unique therapeutic techniques in inner child healing evolved gradually as I was drawn to helping others who had been deeply misunderstood and exploited as children. For years now I have been helping highly introspective souls as a Life Coach providing Inner Child Healing. I feel with my whole heart that helping highly sensitive and creative souls to heal on a deep emotional level is my true purpose in life. My dream of helping others to find their inner power and light and true inner voice inside has come true. I was also able to unblock my musical creativity as part of my healing journey and I have written aver 50 songs since 2004. I call these songs of hope and healing “Folk Rock Songs For the Soul”. I am sharing the lyrics to many of these songs here on this blog in the hopes they will inspire others to overcome the blocks to true happiness and vitality that I was able to overcome while writing them.
So, there is hope for healing the self-doubt that so many of us highly intuitive people feel inside. I am living proof! And I feel privileged to help others by sharing my journey of healing and ways you can overcome the negative voices that keep us from achieving the HIGHER heights our souls desire. You can do it! And I am here to help.
With loving support,