Hi everyone! I hope you are having a good summer. I am and my heart seems to be bursting with the truth about the good and beauty I see in all things these days. Is it just me, or is the sky a little bluer on a clear day than it used to be? 🙂 The beauty of the blue color is striking to me. And the clouds…they seem fluffier, whiter, and more amazing than they appeared to me before. The large trees now appear to me to have the wisdom of the ages when you realize they have been growing and changing for 50 to 100 years or even more. They are so full of quiet wisdom as they stand majestic and tall overseeing all that goes on below providing shade but being nourished by the blazing sun on a clear day. In this state of deep appreciation for nature I feel recharged and renewed in my belief that the bad things that happen to us in life hold a new lesson to be learned about our own inner strength.
As highly intuitive souls (aka HSPs) we are recharged by being alone and “still” in order to hear our inner guidance–but society tells us we must connect with others at all times to be healthy and “normal”. The truth is we need to connect with our inner selves first and love ourselves exactly the way we are and have always been deep down inside. Then, when we are full of this self-knowledge and wisdom and love that comes from within, we can share it with others and have relationships that are deep and longlasting that are built on this foundation of love. When we connect with our true selves we then get the sense that we are not alone–that we have the ability to tap into the love that exists in the Universe (or God) who is on our side and supporting us at all times, no matter what life brings our way.
When we cannot find this love from within, it is important to realize that we must take some time to heal the wounds and blocks from the past that keep us from seeing ourselves clearly. Inner grief work is the brave thing to do. How do you do this when you are so busy as it is, you ask?–there seems to not be enough time for all the things you “should” be doing? The answer lies in the word “should” in your question. There are no “shoulds” in the creation of each of us. As souls who began as sparks of light from God above (or the Universe), we are each as unique as snowflakes. Finding out who we are and discovering how we really feel about things takes some time, effort, courage, and self-discovery.
I myself discovered that the best way to do this is by writing in a private journal (for my eyes only). Pouring out your pain and suffering in your writing may seem self-indulgent–which we were most likely taught is the wrong thing to do and something to be ashamed of. This shame was given to us by a society that has much fear and shoulds that have been drilled into us over generations. Fear is a the opposite of love and those with lower vibrations, steeped in negativity and less compassion for the feelings of others often believe that control and repressing emotions is working well for them. Less compassionate, practical people may appear to have it all figured out but this is just an illusion. Some may be unconsciously jealous of our abilities to recharge from within as intuitives–they cannot do it and so we are often the prey of those who are charismatic and charming on the outside but inside are lacking this self-love and the ability for deep introspection that is essential to finding wholeness in our lives.
As intuitives, we have the power within us all along just like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz. Digging deep to find out our true heart’s desire is like being an archeologist digging for treasure that is buried in the past. World reknowned psychologist Alice Miller, in her book the Drama of the Gifted Child talks about the trauma at the age of 5 or 6 when we repress our true selves and form a false self to survive due to the unbearable feelings that we experience from the lack of support and love, and the negativity that we felt all around us. Then when we get stronger later in life, the pain comes up to heal to show us the truth of what we experienced as children but repressed (John Gray–How to Get What You Want…a Spiritual Guide).
The pain coming up later in life is a healing opportunity! Don’t try to avoid it, cover it up with pills or alcohol, mask it by keeping busy with perfectionism, workaholism, other compulsions, or by being the life of the party. All of these actions are taking you away from your true self and your chance for wholeness and vitality and a life well lived! Make some changes–some hard choices that cause you to slow down and put your self and your deep feelings first. Don’t listen to the naysayers who say it is wrong to spend time by yourself and on your self growth and development–they are only speaking from fear and a superficial ego that has been strongly encouraged and supported by a society that still has a survivalist and fear mentality.
Those who have been strong enough to speak out and stand out as brilliant visionaries have taken the road less traveled and listened to their own inner voice and unique genius. It is not easy to follow your heart instead of your head but it will reap rewards far deeper and long-lasting then you can ever imagine. Because your heart and the creative right side of your brain holds all the answers to finding the fruits of your pursuit of happiness. Ultimately, at your core are all of these good feelings: joy, excitement, fun, freedom, energy, exhilaration, creativity, imagination, and love. They may just be blocked by negative feelings that are fueled by core beliefs that were formed in childhood and early adulthood–when our genius or gift of intuition was met with jealousy, negativity, and even the actions of well-meaning people who were less insightful, less intuitive, and less compassionate than ourselves.
Basicly, when we were younger we believed the people in charge because we were dependent on them to survive or desperately needed the approval of our peers. But now YOU are in charge of you and these negative core beliefs about you may be coming up in the form of emotional pain, blocks, and hardship. It is a sign to change direction in your goals and unrealistic expectations for yourself. Stop trying to fit yourself into someone else’s vision of what a successful life looks like. A successful life is the one that utilizes “your” gifts and actualizes your own unique dreams and desires and no one else can know what that is but YOU. This takes time alone, self-reflection, and a desire to surrender to grieve all you may have lost in a childhood and early adulthood with no supportive peers or adults to encourage you and show you the way as a highly evolved soul with the gift of higher intuition.
Now you are an adult–you know how to seek out support from like-minded others and tune out advice from people who use manipulation and negativity to control you. In your heart, you know it is time to break away from people who make you feel bad about yourself as you truly are. One fifth of the population is highly intuitve and we are growing in confidence and strength as we find each other on the internet and unite to support each other. I feel this is my true purpose in life, to encourage and support the inner emotional healing of highly compassionate, intuitive souls who have lost their way. I did not find my true purpose alone–other intuitives before me helped me to find my true voice but I did have to have to have the courage to delve into the pain and see where my negative core beliefs about myself originated from.
In my writing I discovered an inner child who was hiding in fear but who had gifts that were covered up with self-doubt. Doubts are just “not believing in the truth of our gifts”–and the truth is each of you are awesome and gifted in your compassionate ways! To have compassion for others is THE greatest gift because when you can tap into this compassion and turn it towards comforting your self, you then begin to heal on a deep level and only then you will have more and more compassion to give to others. Alice Miller says that “when you begin to look for fulfillment and to protect the child within, the negativity will leave you and will fade” and your positive true nature will gradually begin to shine. To have a compassionate heart is to have a light inside that has the potential to be a beacon of hope to yourself and to others whose lights are still dim.
As you begin to feel better about yourself, helping others who are wounded at the core can help you to heal as well–as you see the gratefulness in their eyes you realize the power of love and how it can grow and spread infinitely. Ultimately, healing your inner wounds will lead you to the happiness and wholeness your soul is yearning for you to find.
With loving support,