Hello everyone. I hope you are coping well as we trudge through these last few weeks of winter. Saying goodbye to the cold February weather was a boost for all of us here in the midwest USA and colder climate areas! But this new wave of snow is making March harder than many of us anticipated I think. For me, in addition to cabin fever, procrastination of my very important goals became a problem.
I had struggled with procrastination in the past and discovered some useful ways to overcome it. My methods worked once again so I thought I’d share them with you. It is my hope that this post will resonate with highly compassionate intuitive souls (aka HSPs) who struggle with this because… we are more creative than most (too many fantastic ideas), we are more sensory-sensitive (overstimulated) than most (actually intuitively gifted :)), and we are even hard on ourselves for being hard on ourselves (a bad habit from our past). Add to that, it’s too cold to go out, without the warmth of the sun and the beauty of nature to recharge us, we often get overwhelmed, bogged down, stuck in negative energy, which often results in Procrastination!
I was in the middle of a very important project!–I am in the process of decluttering my home and removing items that I have long been attached to but no longer serve my needs. This is big! I have been wanting to do this for years and had finally begun with great gusto!
I had decided to declutter after coming back from an amazing and uplifting January vacation when I discovered… upon entering… my home… that it brought my energy … down. I was surprised and it was the first time I saw my home with new eyes and clarity–I wanted it to be better, lift me up higher, and match the positive energy I was feeling after this amazing vacation. When you realize that the energy in your home is very important in order to have the energy to achieve your goals, it suddenly comes clear why decluttering is so important.
I am actually a pretty organized person and for the most part I am very happy with my home and it’s decor–but I have many labeled boxes of projects, collections, boxes of “some day I might need this” items, and memorabilia from the past filling up all of my closets and inside of cabinets in almost every room in my home!
I found and read a book I had bought a while back using Feng Shui to declutter and I started in with great success. With it I discovered a new way to assess the items in my home. Now I not only ask myself, “do I love, need, or use this item?” AND “if I die tomorrow does it represent who I am and what I believe in to my surviving family members who will have to sort through all of this stuff?” (a really great question to ask yourself :)) BUT ALSO NOW I ask myself, “does this item give me good positive energy, and uplift me, or does it bring me down?”
I had great success with this new approach and got rid of 80 books and a lot of silly trinkets in my den that I previously had been unable to part with. I became exhausted after 2 days decluttering and cleaning 2 rooms and then took a break for a few days. But when it was time to get back to my decluttering I found myself experiencing big time procrastination! I was able to work through it pretty quickly and I wanted to share with you what worked to overcome this awful, unmotivated feeling.
When we find ourselves procrastinating important goals, often it is an emotional block from a painful time in our childhood that is coming up to heal in order to free us up so we can achieve our goals or create new ones. Writing out our frustration about our “numbness” or “stuckness” in a journal can often help us to figure out what is really going on:
1)Perhaps you had a very good reason to be fearful as a child and underneath your procrastination is really anxiety. Your anxiety was a healthy, reasonable reaction to fearful events you experienced as a child. Having compassion for your inner child who was too afraid to be creative or express feelings can help heal this layer of fear that is an energy blockage in your body and is keeping you from moving forward.
2) It could be anger that was never allowed to be expressed and after you realize you have a right to be angry and release it, grief for the lost childhood can follow. Yelling into a pillow and then having a good cry could be all that is needed to free you up to achieving your goals again.
Do the opposite of being hard on yourself about your procrastination:
1) Have compassion for the little child in you who was never seen and validated and never was encouraged to do what she/he desired or was never allowed to be angry. Because of the past now it is difficult for you to follow your desires–no wonder! You deserve compassion! Be kind to yourself!
2)Take a break and do something fun for yourself, treat yourself, or get a change of scenery. Comfort yourself, indulge into your feelings and release them by writing in a journal for your eyes only. Writing connects you to the right side of your brain so that you can receive intuitive guidance from your higher self.
3)Declutter your mind by journaling! Getting the clutter and confusion out of our brain and onto paper often frees up our emotional blocks so that we can have clarity and renewed motivation for our goals again. Sometimes by writing and venting all the frustrations that are keeping us from moving forward, we then feel less overwhelmed and suddenly gain clarity about new goals. We may even decide to change course in a way that is a better fit for us after all.
Journaling helps us to look forward to change and new desires that make life more exciting and asking ourselves the very question, “What’s asking to be born in my life? This procrastination may be coming up to force you to write in order to access your inner guidance and get back in touch with your higher self!
That is what happened with me. As I wrote I discovered some fear from the past the was coming up as I experienced new successes in my life. I was kind to myself as a result of this new awareness and treated myself to some comforting extreme-self-care and rest. Then I discovered I was still very excited about the many new creative projects that had gotten me excited to declutter in the first place!–the motivation had been restored and the urge to procrastinate had disappeared!
And since I work at home, I really was excited about the vision of my home that I knew would give me energy and help me to attain these goals. So now I am back to decluttering my home (after decluttering my brain and heart) and I am delving into the hardest space, my bedroom closet! This is where I have hat boxes filled with old letters and cards from every occasion, old favorite shoes and memorabilia from high school, college, and my early years of parenting, and too many clothes that I will never wear again.
Helpful tip: I have learned to take a picture of items that I am keeping just for the memories and then I say goodbye–pictures take up so much less space and you still have the memory! If saying goodbye to it is really hard for you, try putting the hardest items in your garage or in an out of the way place for a little while just to see if you miss them. If you don’t miss them then say goodbye and say hello to all the new space you have for new better energy to come into your life!
Wish me luck, after the bedroom closet it’s time to tackle the game room/art room/catch-all room! Time to turn it into a guest room/man cave? ha ha My husband will love it!
With loving support,